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"And now, behold, the LORD hath kept me alive... while the children of Israel wandered in the wilderness"
-Joshua 14:10
My wife and I were just in the West Bank
... not on purpose.
We were driving in a rental car with some friends and got lost.
Yeesh.
There are no athiests in a rental car that's lost in a DMZ.
You want to see some tense Jews?
I've said it before, and I will repeat it now, because it's so true: IT'S ALL RELATIVE!
I feel lost in Jerusalem, understanding about 70% of what I hear and read, unsure if the label on the can of chickpeas means "On Sale" or "Rat Poison."
Watching TV, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu says, "For all of our problems there are solutions." I think he says, "For all of our problems there are mushrooms."
But in the West Bank, around Jenen and Nazareth... Farsi and Arabic? Squiggly lines and dots. The only familiar logo was Coca-Cola. I was lost!
After driving around aimlessly for two hours, we passed a military check point. We should've asked for directions from the Israeli soldiers who were stationed there.
We did not.
We drove for 2 more hours and asked directions from three separate gas stations, and finally we pulled into an Arab gas station, where 3 hairy, husky fellas were standing.
I got out of the car and my wife remained inside... just in case her short sleeves offended the men we didn't want them to, y'know... murder us.
In my broken Hebrew I asked if anyone spoke Hebrew or English.
Arabs and Israelis give directions in the same exact way-- they call over 5 friends and ask them, and when they don't know, they bring over the oldest guy with the fewest teeth. As it turns out, HE spoke Hebrew.
"What happened?" he asked.
I answered: "We go, for long time, but not know where are we. We go around around, but no find city by name Netanya. Can you help to me?"
"Oh, very easy. Go straight, straight, then right."
No matter where you are going in Israel, the directions always start "Straight, straight" -- "Ya-shar, Ya-shar."
The old guy was correct. We were on our way.
A little later we passed a second military checkpoint, this time we asked for directions from the Israeli soldiers. One guy didn't know, he called over two other officers, they called over two more.
Then their senior officer shouted from from twenty feet away, "It's easy. Go straight, straight.."
Arabs and Israelis, so similar...
So we made it out of there, no harm done.
But we learned an important lesson: always ask for directions.
"Lo, then would I wander far off, and remain in the wilderness. Selah."
- Ps. 55:7
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming." - Dory, from "Finding Nemo"
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Friday, April 30
Tuesday, April 27
“Say my name, say my name” -- Destiny’s Child
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“And God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And the evening and the morning were the first day.”
-- Genesis 1:5
The importance of names are reiterated time and again-- including in the first day of Creation.
Ancient Egyptian texts, Nahum Sarna, 20th century biblical scholar (Understanding Genesis,1966) and Rumplestiltskin.
Giving something a name identifies it!
One more reason why the Nazis tattooed numbers on the Jews’ arms.
“Just give me a number instead of my name/ Forget all about me and let me decay”
– “Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat,” Tim Rice, Andrew Lloyd Weber
Have you ever met someone and then see them again and they say, “Hi, nice to meet you.” Arrrgghh!
Compare that to someone who remembers your name, looks you in the eye, shakes your hand… now THAT is a politician I would vote for.
Having said that, Israelis have some crazy names!
I’m not even talking about Noah’s grandson Nimrod (Gen. 10:8)
Israelis name their kids some awful names: Ifat, Osnot, Soggy, Moran, Dudu.
I think it’s an insurance policy, to ensure that their kids never leave Israel (called “Yerida”). These kids aren’t going anywhere.
Any playground in the Western Hemisphere would eat them alive.
“And a river went out of Eden to water the garden; and from thence it was parted, and became into four heads. The name of the first is Pison…”
-- Genesis 2:10-11
When I last lived in Israel, I stayed for two weeks in a suburb of Tel Aviv, Ra’anana. The street?
Pines. Pronounced “Pee-ness”… named after Shlomo Pines, best known for his English translation of Maimonides’ “Guide to the Perplexed.”
But I’m sure you already knew that.
I know the importance of names. As an identical twin, I was often confused and my identity in question. My brother went to school in Boston. I was in New York… Even in Brooklyn and in Jerusalem I hear people shout at me, “Hey, Zack!”
Nope.
“Who am I? I’m Jean Val Jean!”
-- Les Miserables, lyrics by Herbert Kretzmer
A rose by any other name might smell as sweet… unless you called it a fart flower.
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“And God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And the evening and the morning were the first day.”
-- Genesis 1:5
The importance of names are reiterated time and again-- including in the first day of Creation.
Ancient Egyptian texts, Nahum Sarna, 20th century biblical scholar (Understanding Genesis,1966) and Rumplestiltskin.
Giving something a name identifies it!
One more reason why the Nazis tattooed numbers on the Jews’ arms.
“Just give me a number instead of my name/ Forget all about me and let me decay”
– “Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat,” Tim Rice, Andrew Lloyd Weber
Have you ever met someone and then see them again and they say, “Hi, nice to meet you.” Arrrgghh!
Compare that to someone who remembers your name, looks you in the eye, shakes your hand… now THAT is a politician I would vote for.
Having said that, Israelis have some crazy names!
I’m not even talking about Noah’s grandson Nimrod (Gen. 10:8)
Israelis name their kids some awful names: Ifat, Osnot, Soggy, Moran, Dudu.
I think it’s an insurance policy, to ensure that their kids never leave Israel (called “Yerida”). These kids aren’t going anywhere.
Any playground in the Western Hemisphere would eat them alive.
“And a river went out of Eden to water the garden; and from thence it was parted, and became into four heads. The name of the first is Pison…”
-- Genesis 2:10-11
When I last lived in Israel, I stayed for two weeks in a suburb of Tel Aviv, Ra’anana. The street?
Pines. Pronounced “Pee-ness”… named after Shlomo Pines, best known for his English translation of Maimonides’ “Guide to the Perplexed.”
But I’m sure you already knew that.
I know the importance of names. As an identical twin, I was often confused and my identity in question. My brother went to school in Boston. I was in New York… Even in Brooklyn and in Jerusalem I hear people shout at me, “Hey, Zack!”
Nope.
“Who am I? I’m Jean Val Jean!”
-- Les Miserables, lyrics by Herbert Kretzmer
A rose by any other name might smell as sweet… unless you called it a fart flower.
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Monday, April 26
Everybody's crazy
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4/25/10
“The word of the LORD which came to Jeremiah the prophet against the Gentiles;”
- Jeremiah 46:1
I visited the Church of the Holy Sepulcher yesterday.
Yes, like any good Jew in Israel, I went to church.
My non-Jewish friends from New York are in town this week, so my wife and I showed them around Jerusalem… and the coolest play that’s also free and open on Saturday and interesting to Gentiles—a church!
They’d already seen the Western Wall…
First of all—The Church of the Holy Sepulcher covers the spots where (get ready): Jesus was crucified, removed from the cross and placed on a slab and prepared for burial (called the Stone of Unction… what’s your function?), the cave in which his body was placed, and of course… the place from which he ascended to heaven.
Wow! That’s a lot of stuff for one spot! I’ve said it before: It’s a microcosm of Jerusalem. There are literally thousands of miles of dirt on this planet, why did three major religions have to choose ONE CITY for their most important events!
Thank you, Hindus, for keeping clear of the Middle East.
One less head ache.
Okay, so we explored the Church of the Holy Sepulcher.
First thing I noticed—in the wooden frame surrounding the cave in which Jesus purportedly (great word) disappeared and then rose to heaven… in that wooden frame—people have stuffed notes and bits of paper. I assume they are prayers. Which tickles me to no end!
I mean… they are CLEARLY ripping off the mystique of the Western Wall! But we Jews are CLEARLY smarter. I mean, if a big, bad wolf comes along and huffs and puffs… the Jews’ notes will stay put in the Western Wall, but the Christians’ notes’ will be blown down in the wooden surroundings in the Church of the Holy (as one dumb American tourist I heard called it) “Spectacle.”
But we did get to watch a traditional Christian ceremony… I couldn’t tell you what it was, maybe Greek Orthodox or Armenian… but they bowed all the way to the ground… which reminded me of my tour guide in Cairo, Egypt. I told him that several men had dirt on their forehead. He said, “It’s because they are muslim and pray five times a day, and when they pray they bow their heads to the ground, so it’s a way of showing people how religious and pious they are.”
Interesting.
Reminded me of high school—I attended an all Jewish high school, most of the boys wore kippot all day long, and once a year a few Catholic teachers came to school with “shmutz” on their foreheads… for Ash Wednesday. People like to declare their religious beliefs.
Everywhere. Regardless of religion. People are proud of what they believe. As well they should be. But we get into trouble when we start saying, “EVERYONE should believe what I believe!”
But, as a Swedish tourist told my wife in a youth hostel in Eilat last month, “If you think what you believe is right, wouldn’t you want EVERYONE to believe the same thing, too?”
Touché, Swedish tourist.
But that is one of the best things about the United States:
Everyone is allowed to believe whatever they want, as long as they don’t infringe on anyone else to believe their own crazy ideas.
A dude was nailed to some wood and then rose from the dead and so we eat crackers and wine … and THAT’S religion????
A dude received a couple pieces of stone on a mountain and thousands wandered the desert, then settled in the Middle East … and THAT’S a religion????
Vishnu has six arms and an elephant head… and THAT’S a religion?
Mormonism???
It’s all nuts! But guess what… that’s OUR PEROGATIVE!
Leave everyone to his/her own devices, and as long as they don’t bother anyone else, so be it!
And if they HELP other people, THAT is the best thing about religion.
“Come on People now, Smile on your brother, Everybody get together and love one another right now”
-The Youngbloods, 1967
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4/25/10
“The word of the LORD which came to Jeremiah the prophet against the Gentiles;”
- Jeremiah 46:1
I visited the Church of the Holy Sepulcher yesterday.
Yes, like any good Jew in Israel, I went to church.
My non-Jewish friends from New York are in town this week, so my wife and I showed them around Jerusalem… and the coolest play that’s also free and open on Saturday and interesting to Gentiles—a church!
They’d already seen the Western Wall…
First of all—The Church of the Holy Sepulcher covers the spots where (get ready): Jesus was crucified, removed from the cross and placed on a slab and prepared for burial (called the Stone of Unction… what’s your function?), the cave in which his body was placed, and of course… the place from which he ascended to heaven.
Wow! That’s a lot of stuff for one spot! I’ve said it before: It’s a microcosm of Jerusalem. There are literally thousands of miles of dirt on this planet, why did three major religions have to choose ONE CITY for their most important events!
Thank you, Hindus, for keeping clear of the Middle East.
One less head ache.
Okay, so we explored the Church of the Holy Sepulcher.
First thing I noticed—in the wooden frame surrounding the cave in which Jesus purportedly (great word) disappeared and then rose to heaven… in that wooden frame—people have stuffed notes and bits of paper. I assume they are prayers. Which tickles me to no end!
I mean… they are CLEARLY ripping off the mystique of the Western Wall! But we Jews are CLEARLY smarter. I mean, if a big, bad wolf comes along and huffs and puffs… the Jews’ notes will stay put in the Western Wall, but the Christians’ notes’ will be blown down in the wooden surroundings in the Church of the Holy (as one dumb American tourist I heard called it) “Spectacle.”
But we did get to watch a traditional Christian ceremony… I couldn’t tell you what it was, maybe Greek Orthodox or Armenian… but they bowed all the way to the ground… which reminded me of my tour guide in Cairo, Egypt. I told him that several men had dirt on their forehead. He said, “It’s because they are muslim and pray five times a day, and when they pray they bow their heads to the ground, so it’s a way of showing people how religious and pious they are.”
Interesting.
Reminded me of high school—I attended an all Jewish high school, most of the boys wore kippot all day long, and once a year a few Catholic teachers came to school with “shmutz” on their foreheads… for Ash Wednesday. People like to declare their religious beliefs.
Everywhere. Regardless of religion. People are proud of what they believe. As well they should be. But we get into trouble when we start saying, “EVERYONE should believe what I believe!”
But, as a Swedish tourist told my wife in a youth hostel in Eilat last month, “If you think what you believe is right, wouldn’t you want EVERYONE to believe the same thing, too?”
Touché, Swedish tourist.
But that is one of the best things about the United States:
Everyone is allowed to believe whatever they want, as long as they don’t infringe on anyone else to believe their own crazy ideas.
A dude was nailed to some wood and then rose from the dead and so we eat crackers and wine … and THAT’S religion????
A dude received a couple pieces of stone on a mountain and thousands wandered the desert, then settled in the Middle East … and THAT’S a religion????
Vishnu has six arms and an elephant head… and THAT’S a religion?
Mormonism???
It’s all nuts! But guess what… that’s OUR PEROGATIVE!
Leave everyone to his/her own devices, and as long as they don’t bother anyone else, so be it!
And if they HELP other people, THAT is the best thing about religion.
“Come on People now, Smile on your brother, Everybody get together and love one another right now”
-The Youngbloods, 1967
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Sunday, April 25
Bad apples and sour grapes
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"And I brought you into a plentiful country, to eat the fruit thereof and the goodness thereof; but when ye entered, ye defiled my land, and made mine heritage an abomination."
- Jeremiah 2:7
Whenever friends ask me what I miss about the U.S. while I am in Israel, I always answer the same thing:
"Dun' tawk to me, you stoopeed Amereekin! I am Issrellee now! Gimme money, but I resent you for it!"
I tell people that everything in Israel is more expensive than it is in America.
Especially my biggest vice... Twizzlers! (which are TWICE as expensive here)
Save the following-- bus fare, flowers, wine, and... produce!
You can buy 4 oranges for one dollar!
What a country... citrus, public transportation and perpetual religious strife... it all balances out!
I must admit, I tend to vilify Israelis... how loud they are, the way they recklessly drive and park on the sidewalk (yes, I wrote that correctly)-- every American I know who is living here as nearly been hit by at least one car in the last 6 months.
But people think of New Yorkers in exactly the same way.
So I should feel at home.
Another ironic frustration-- my pals and I refer to Ultra Orthodox (Haredi) Jews as "black hats" with the derision we might use for any minority back in America... casual bigotry, but bigotry nonetheless.
Y'know, they shirk their societal duty (in this case, mandatory army service), they have too many kids that they can't support because they don't work, they dress differently than I do, I feel them judging me and my wife... but mostly I feel insecure/self-conscious when I compare myself to them-- I see what I most resent about my religion (and pretty much any religion): fear of change and modernity, strict adherence to archaic ways of life, close-mindedness.
It's not easy, nor should it be, to see aspects of one's own religion in Red State terms.
There are Jews who oppose abortion, gay rights, gender equality, freedom of religion... basically, there are people who believe everyone should be exactly like them-- dress, talk, and think the way they do.
Bu then... aren't I saying a similar thing by pointing my finger at those people?
Woooo, it's a very sticky wicket.
After walking through the Church of the Holy Sepulcher yesterday in Jerusalem's Old City, which houses 5 different sects of Christianity in one small church, bustling priests of different denominations... it's tense, crowded, confusing... but at least they're making it work.
Easier said than done.
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"And I brought you into a plentiful country, to eat the fruit thereof and the goodness thereof; but when ye entered, ye defiled my land, and made mine heritage an abomination."
- Jeremiah 2:7
Whenever friends ask me what I miss about the U.S. while I am in Israel, I always answer the same thing:
"Dun' tawk to me, you stoopeed Amereekin! I am Issrellee now! Gimme money, but I resent you for it!"
I tell people that everything in Israel is more expensive than it is in America.
Especially my biggest vice... Twizzlers! (which are TWICE as expensive here)
Save the following-- bus fare, flowers, wine, and... produce!
You can buy 4 oranges for one dollar!
What a country... citrus, public transportation and perpetual religious strife... it all balances out!
I must admit, I tend to vilify Israelis... how loud they are, the way they recklessly drive and park on the sidewalk (yes, I wrote that correctly)-- every American I know who is living here as nearly been hit by at least one car in the last 6 months.
But people think of New Yorkers in exactly the same way.
So I should feel at home.
Another ironic frustration-- my pals and I refer to Ultra Orthodox (Haredi) Jews as "black hats" with the derision we might use for any minority back in America... casual bigotry, but bigotry nonetheless.
Y'know, they shirk their societal duty (in this case, mandatory army service), they have too many kids that they can't support because they don't work, they dress differently than I do, I feel them judging me and my wife... but mostly I feel insecure/self-conscious when I compare myself to them-- I see what I most resent about my religion (and pretty much any religion): fear of change and modernity, strict adherence to archaic ways of life, close-mindedness.
It's not easy, nor should it be, to see aspects of one's own religion in Red State terms.
There are Jews who oppose abortion, gay rights, gender equality, freedom of religion... basically, there are people who believe everyone should be exactly like them-- dress, talk, and think the way they do.
Bu then... aren't I saying a similar thing by pointing my finger at those people?
Woooo, it's a very sticky wicket.
After walking through the Church of the Holy Sepulcher yesterday in Jerusalem's Old City, which houses 5 different sects of Christianity in one small church, bustling priests of different denominations... it's tense, crowded, confusing... but at least they're making it work.
Easier said than done.
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Friday, April 23
What a dump
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“Thy holy cities are a wilderness, Zion is a wilderness, Jerusalem a desolation.”
-- Isaiah 64:10
“Jerusalem is mournful and dreary and lifeless. I would not desire to live here.”
-- Mark Twain, ch. 53 of “Innocents Abroad”, 1867
When I was last in Israel, ten years ago, I vividly remember reading these disparaging remarks made by one of America’s greatest writers, which were prominently displayed on posters in Israel’s Diaspora Museum.
Naturally, I was defensive.
Who the hell is Mark Twain to diss Israel?
After having lived in Jerusalem for nearly 8 months, I can honestly say… I see where he was coming from.
“It is a hopeless, dreary, heart-broken land" (ch.56)
First of all, when he visited the Holy Land, it WAS all of those things. Swamps, desert, miserable, etc.
Very different from Israel of today.
… But not ALL that different:
Close to truth:
“To reproduce a Jerusalem street, it would be necessary to up-end a chicken coop and hang it in an alley of American houses.”
And
“The streets are roughly and badly paved with stone… such streets are too narrow for carriages.” (ch. 53)
Ha!
The more things change… but then again, the Middle East has never been big on change.
There are homeless people here in Jerusalem, and thousands of amorous stray cats, and condemned buildings… but it’s kinda like Manhattan—from a distance, over a bridge, at sunset, there’s no other place quite like it.
It feels... special. It feels important. It feels like home.
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“Thy holy cities are a wilderness, Zion is a wilderness, Jerusalem a desolation.”
-- Isaiah 64:10
“Jerusalem is mournful and dreary and lifeless. I would not desire to live here.”
-- Mark Twain, ch. 53 of “Innocents Abroad”, 1867
When I was last in Israel, ten years ago, I vividly remember reading these disparaging remarks made by one of America’s greatest writers, which were prominently displayed on posters in Israel’s Diaspora Museum.
Naturally, I was defensive.
Who the hell is Mark Twain to diss Israel?
After having lived in Jerusalem for nearly 8 months, I can honestly say… I see where he was coming from.
“It is a hopeless, dreary, heart-broken land" (ch.56)
First of all, when he visited the Holy Land, it WAS all of those things. Swamps, desert, miserable, etc.
Very different from Israel of today.
… But not ALL that different:
Close to truth:
“To reproduce a Jerusalem street, it would be necessary to up-end a chicken coop and hang it in an alley of American houses.”
And
“The streets are roughly and badly paved with stone… such streets are too narrow for carriages.” (ch. 53)
Ha!
The more things change… but then again, the Middle East has never been big on change.
There are homeless people here in Jerusalem, and thousands of amorous stray cats, and condemned buildings… but it’s kinda like Manhattan—from a distance, over a bridge, at sunset, there’s no other place quite like it.
It feels... special. It feels important. It feels like home.
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Thursday, April 15
Walls
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"Even unto them will I give in mine house and within my walls a place and a name... that shall not be cut off."
- Isaiah 56:5
My brother came to visit me here in Jerusalem on Tuesday.
On Wednesday our itinerary was as follows:
Visit the Old City in the morning.
Go to the Conservative Yeshiva at noon.
Visit the Yad Vashem Holocaust Museum in the afternoon.
In the morning we stood at the Western Wall (ha-kotel ha-ma'aravi), touched the ancient ashlars (giant square stones) that have stood for over two thousand years, the oldest remnants of the Holy Temple. As I felt the smooth stone beneath my fingers, I saw the notes scribbled and stuffed between the blocks, prayers to God.
The ancient past of Judaism.
Then we went to CY, and Egalitarian (men and women studying together) yeshiva where the future rabbis of America study (with me).
We ate lunch and went to the bathroom.
I will not go into explicit detail, but I stood in the religious restroom, at a yeshiva urinal, facing a wall of a different kind, but a feeling of calm came over me.
No, it wasn't my bladder, it was my heart.. the feeling of completeness.
The present and future of Judaism
Then we walked through the harrowing, heart-wrenching Holocaust Museum-- with walls inside to simulate the Warsaw ghetto.
Yad Vashem was named after the verse from Isaiah, "a memorial (lit. place) and a name... that shall not be cut off."
And my brother recalled the words of George Santayana:
"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it."
That's Israel:
ancient memories of glory and God, recent wounds of destruction and death, but sandwiched in the middle-- learning, education... questions.
An oreo cookie of conundrums: Pride, Pain and Pedagogue.
"Even unto them will I give in mine house and within my walls a place and a name... that shall not be cut off."
- Isaiah 56:5
My brother came to visit me here in Jerusalem on Tuesday.
On Wednesday our itinerary was as follows:
Visit the Old City in the morning.
Go to the Conservative Yeshiva at noon.
Visit the Yad Vashem Holocaust Museum in the afternoon.
In the morning we stood at the Western Wall (ha-kotel ha-ma'aravi), touched the ancient ashlars (giant square stones) that have stood for over two thousand years, the oldest remnants of the Holy Temple. As I felt the smooth stone beneath my fingers, I saw the notes scribbled and stuffed between the blocks, prayers to God.
The ancient past of Judaism.
Then we went to CY, and Egalitarian (men and women studying together) yeshiva where the future rabbis of America study (with me).
We ate lunch and went to the bathroom.
I will not go into explicit detail, but I stood in the religious restroom, at a yeshiva urinal, facing a wall of a different kind, but a feeling of calm came over me.
No, it wasn't my bladder, it was my heart.. the feeling of completeness.
The present and future of Judaism
Then we walked through the harrowing, heart-wrenching Holocaust Museum-- with walls inside to simulate the Warsaw ghetto.
Yad Vashem was named after the verse from Isaiah, "a memorial (lit. place) and a name... that shall not be cut off."
And my brother recalled the words of George Santayana:
"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it."
That's Israel:
ancient memories of glory and God, recent wounds of destruction and death, but sandwiched in the middle-- learning, education... questions.
An oreo cookie of conundrums: Pride, Pain and Pedagogue.
Monday, April 12
Old Dog
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“Thou shalt rise up… and honour the face of the old man, and fear thy God: I am the LORD.”
-- Leviticus 19:32
Part of this verse hangs on signs in Israeli public buses.
I rarely approve of the mixing of Church (or Synagogue) and State… but that’s a really nice rule.
Walking through Jerusalem, you can’t go more than 10 minutes without seeing repeated images: cats in the dumpsters; Orthodox Jews dressed in black, walking briskly… somewhere; honking, hairy cab drivers, and elderly people being pushed in wheelchairs by Filipino nurses.
In the last 20 years there has been a huge influx of Filipinos into Israel. They are the prime employees in the assisted living job market. Filipino men and women helping elderly Jews… why not?
The only other Asians I have seen in this country have worked in sushi restaurants (honestly). The more, the mellier!
Now, back to geezers:
In January of 1990, when I was 7 ½ years old, my family got a dog. A beagle. We named her Peanut. She was adorable, quiet, and we all took turns walking her and carrying her crap in little sandwich bags. It was a full life (and a full sandwich bag).
She lived a long, fat, happy life.
But the last couple of years were rough on my parents. Peanut had trouble walking, she couldn’t get to the front door in time to… fill a sandwich bag. So my parents bought “doggie diapers,” which are exactly what they sound like… just like human diapers except with a hole for the dog’s tail. Sad, quite sad.
When has a pet lived long enough? Who can say?
Most veterinarians agree that an animal is certainly “ready to die” when it stops eating—that’s a sign that its body is literally shutting down.
Well, Peanut didn’t stop eating! Hence, the doggie diapers. Watching her waddle into the kitchen for dinner every night was a sad, pathetic, and hilarious sight.
We often called her our R.O.U.S., an allusion to the Rodents of Unusual Size from “The Princess Bride,” because of the way she waddled and wheezed on her way to her dinner bowl.
But then, she finally did stop eating.
Peanut shuffled off her puppy coil in 2007, just short of her 18th birthday.
Damn!
After she died, my dad was filled with remorse.
“Maybe we should’ve, y’know… put her down. Ended her misery sooner.”
I related to him the following passage I found in Joseph Telushkin’s book, “Jewish Wisdom”:
“Show respect to an old man who has forgotten his learning through no fault of his own, for we have learned that the fragments of the old tablets [of the Ten Commandments which Moses shattered] were kept alongside the new tablets in the Ark of the Covenant.”
-- Babylonian Talmud, Berakhot 8b
Even when tablets are broken, we still carry them around.
Scotty: A century out of date. It's just... obsolete! ...
Geordi: Just because something's old doesn't mean you throw it away.
-- (Star Trek: TNG, Season 6, ep.4, written by Ronald D. Moore)
This historic exchange between the engineers from the original Star Trek series and the updated series (respectively) was quite poignant, indeed.
Especially considering the history of Scotty, portrayed by the amicable James Doohan.
Doohan suffered from Parkinson's disease, diabetes and pulmonary fibrosis in later life. In 2004, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. He died in 2005 (BBC News).
I saw the 1997 documentary Trekkies, and Doohan relayed the following, beautiful story:
“I got a fan letter from a young lady. It was a suicide note. So I called her and told her I’m doing a convention in Indianapolis, I wanna see you there. I saw her… she was definitely suicidal… I said, ‘I;m doing a convention two weeks in St. Louis, then in another two weeks… she came to new york… that went on for two or three years, maybe 18 times. And all I did was talk positive things to her. And then, all of a sudden—nothing. I didn’t hear anything. I had no idea what was happening to her.
Eight years later I get a letter from her: ‘I want to thank you so much for what you did for me, because I just got my master’s degree in Electronic Engineering’… and that’s the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. And it brings tears to my eyes…”
Old or young, we can all do something kind for someone else.
Damn.
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“Thou shalt rise up… and honour the face of the old man, and fear thy God: I am the LORD.”
-- Leviticus 19:32
Part of this verse hangs on signs in Israeli public buses.
I rarely approve of the mixing of Church (or Synagogue) and State… but that’s a really nice rule.
Walking through Jerusalem, you can’t go more than 10 minutes without seeing repeated images: cats in the dumpsters; Orthodox Jews dressed in black, walking briskly… somewhere; honking, hairy cab drivers, and elderly people being pushed in wheelchairs by Filipino nurses.
In the last 20 years there has been a huge influx of Filipinos into Israel. They are the prime employees in the assisted living job market. Filipino men and women helping elderly Jews… why not?
The only other Asians I have seen in this country have worked in sushi restaurants (honestly). The more, the mellier!
Now, back to geezers:
In January of 1990, when I was 7 ½ years old, my family got a dog. A beagle. We named her Peanut. She was adorable, quiet, and we all took turns walking her and carrying her crap in little sandwich bags. It was a full life (and a full sandwich bag).
She lived a long, fat, happy life.
But the last couple of years were rough on my parents. Peanut had trouble walking, she couldn’t get to the front door in time to… fill a sandwich bag. So my parents bought “doggie diapers,” which are exactly what they sound like… just like human diapers except with a hole for the dog’s tail. Sad, quite sad.
When has a pet lived long enough? Who can say?
Most veterinarians agree that an animal is certainly “ready to die” when it stops eating—that’s a sign that its body is literally shutting down.
Well, Peanut didn’t stop eating! Hence, the doggie diapers. Watching her waddle into the kitchen for dinner every night was a sad, pathetic, and hilarious sight.
We often called her our R.O.U.S., an allusion to the Rodents of Unusual Size from “The Princess Bride,” because of the way she waddled and wheezed on her way to her dinner bowl.
But then, she finally did stop eating.
Peanut shuffled off her puppy coil in 2007, just short of her 18th birthday.
Damn!
After she died, my dad was filled with remorse.
“Maybe we should’ve, y’know… put her down. Ended her misery sooner.”
I related to him the following passage I found in Joseph Telushkin’s book, “Jewish Wisdom”:
“Show respect to an old man who has forgotten his learning through no fault of his own, for we have learned that the fragments of the old tablets [of the Ten Commandments which Moses shattered] were kept alongside the new tablets in the Ark of the Covenant.”
-- Babylonian Talmud, Berakhot 8b
Even when tablets are broken, we still carry them around.
Scotty: A century out of date. It's just... obsolete! ...
Geordi: Just because something's old doesn't mean you throw it away.
-- (Star Trek: TNG, Season 6, ep.4, written by Ronald D. Moore)
This historic exchange between the engineers from the original Star Trek series and the updated series (respectively) was quite poignant, indeed.
Especially considering the history of Scotty, portrayed by the amicable James Doohan.
Doohan suffered from Parkinson's disease, diabetes and pulmonary fibrosis in later life. In 2004, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. He died in 2005 (BBC News).
I saw the 1997 documentary Trekkies, and Doohan relayed the following, beautiful story:
“I got a fan letter from a young lady. It was a suicide note. So I called her and told her I’m doing a convention in Indianapolis, I wanna see you there. I saw her… she was definitely suicidal… I said, ‘I;m doing a convention two weeks in St. Louis, then in another two weeks… she came to new york… that went on for two or three years, maybe 18 times. And all I did was talk positive things to her. And then, all of a sudden—nothing. I didn’t hear anything. I had no idea what was happening to her.
Eight years later I get a letter from her: ‘I want to thank you so much for what you did for me, because I just got my master’s degree in Electronic Engineering’… and that’s the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. And it brings tears to my eyes…”
Old or young, we can all do something kind for someone else.
Damn.
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Sunday, April 11
"Hello, Clarice"
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“Thou shalt not see thy brother’s ass or his ox fall down by the way, and hide thyself from them: thou shalt surely help him to lift them up again.”
-- Deuteronomy 22:4
At the end of Passover, the people of Jerusalem scurry to their local pizza shops and gorge on bread—wonderful bread! Like flies to feces!
Well, a week ago I WAS one of those flies.
My wife and I ventured nearly 3 blocks from our apartment to the nearest pizza eatery, enjoying the finest Italian cuisine Jews could offer.
Just as we finished our repast, an old woman (at least 75) approached our table.
“Excuse me, blah blah blah,” she started saying something in Hebrew.
Now, I have lived in New York City for the past 8 years, so when a stranger approaches me my natural reaction is to back away with one hand on my wallet, saying, “Sorry, buddy, I got no change.”
Well, that’s what I did when this old lady started talkin’ all Jew-talk on me. But my wife translated.
“Aaron, she says her car is parked around the corner and she needs help taking a wheelchair out of the back seat.”
Oh!
Why didn’t ya say so!
Well, that’s a Jew of a different color!
(Literally translated, the lady asked us, “Sorry, my husband had troubles, back aches, would you able to pick up chair of rolling from my automobile’s backside? Kind requesting.”)
My wife volunteered to accompany me, as we walked the half a block, to the lady’s car.
Her husband was in the front seat, a big, bulky wheelchair was in the back.
We took it out, she thanked us, wished us a pleasant week and my wife and I walked away.
“Y’know why I came with you?” my wife asked me.
“Because you speak Hebrew better than me?”
“No.”
“You wanted to help me lift the wheelchair and get credit for the good deed?”
“No.”
I shrugged.
My wife explained, simply by adopting the creepy Buffalo Bill voice from “Silence of the Lambs”: “Would you help me put this sofa in the back of my van?”
I was shocked.
“You thought that old, feeble, Israeli lady was a serial killer?”
My wife shrugged and simply said, “ ‘It rubs the lotion on its skin—”
To which I responded, “‘…or else it gets the hose again!’”
And we kissed.
What we were really saying is, “I love you.”
To each his own.
Hannibal Lecter: Now then, tell me. What did Miggs say to you? Multiple Miggs in the next cell. He hissed at you. What did he say?
Clarice Starling: He said, "I can smell your [scent]."
Hannibal Lecter: I see. I myself cannot. You use Evian skin cream, and sometimes you wear L'Air du Temps, but not today.
-- TBS version of “Silence of the Lambs,” screenplay by Ted Tally, novel by Thomas Harris
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“Thou shalt not see thy brother’s ass or his ox fall down by the way, and hide thyself from them: thou shalt surely help him to lift them up again.”
-- Deuteronomy 22:4
At the end of Passover, the people of Jerusalem scurry to their local pizza shops and gorge on bread—wonderful bread! Like flies to feces!
Well, a week ago I WAS one of those flies.
My wife and I ventured nearly 3 blocks from our apartment to the nearest pizza eatery, enjoying the finest Italian cuisine Jews could offer.
Just as we finished our repast, an old woman (at least 75) approached our table.
“Excuse me, blah blah blah,” she started saying something in Hebrew.
Now, I have lived in New York City for the past 8 years, so when a stranger approaches me my natural reaction is to back away with one hand on my wallet, saying, “Sorry, buddy, I got no change.”
Well, that’s what I did when this old lady started talkin’ all Jew-talk on me. But my wife translated.
“Aaron, she says her car is parked around the corner and she needs help taking a wheelchair out of the back seat.”
Oh!
Why didn’t ya say so!
Well, that’s a Jew of a different color!
(Literally translated, the lady asked us, “Sorry, my husband had troubles, back aches, would you able to pick up chair of rolling from my automobile’s backside? Kind requesting.”)
My wife volunteered to accompany me, as we walked the half a block, to the lady’s car.
Her husband was in the front seat, a big, bulky wheelchair was in the back.
We took it out, she thanked us, wished us a pleasant week and my wife and I walked away.
“Y’know why I came with you?” my wife asked me.
“Because you speak Hebrew better than me?”
“No.”
“You wanted to help me lift the wheelchair and get credit for the good deed?”
“No.”
I shrugged.
My wife explained, simply by adopting the creepy Buffalo Bill voice from “Silence of the Lambs”: “Would you help me put this sofa in the back of my van?”
I was shocked.
“You thought that old, feeble, Israeli lady was a serial killer?”
My wife shrugged and simply said, “ ‘It rubs the lotion on its skin—”
To which I responded, “‘…or else it gets the hose again!’”
And we kissed.
What we were really saying is, “I love you.”
To each his own.
Hannibal Lecter: Now then, tell me. What did Miggs say to you? Multiple Miggs in the next cell. He hissed at you. What did he say?
Clarice Starling: He said, "I can smell your [scent]."
Hannibal Lecter: I see. I myself cannot. You use Evian skin cream, and sometimes you wear L'Air du Temps, but not today.
-- TBS version of “Silence of the Lambs,” screenplay by Ted Tally, novel by Thomas Harris
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Friday, April 9
“Food, Glorious Food!”—Oliver!
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My wonderful wife made an interesting argument today.
Still recovering from Passover, I shared my thoughts from my blog (“It could always be worse”)—
how abstaining from bread consumption reminds us, “At least we’re not slaves like we used to be!”
My wife corrected me… as she tends to do because she tends to be correct most of the time… (she also tends to read this blog).
“But if that’s the case, we’re simply reliving our slavery for the duration of the holiday. Passover and eating matzah becomes the slavery and not the celebration of our freedom.”
Good point.
They say religion should be a blessing, not a burden.
… Shyeah right.
And your ex meant it when s/he said, “It’s not you, it’s me.”
B.S.
But my wife put it in terms I could understand: Food.
“We are still slaves. Everyone is a slave to something.
And most of us are slaves to food/beverage some of the time.”
My wife is a proud member of Weight Watchers, and a success story (she’s married to me, after all). She lost nearly 30% of her body weight in high school and is smokin’ hot! She is the second hottest Yeshiva student I know (first, naturally, is Yentl).
So she knows a thing or two about food and its tight grip around our gastronomical short and curlies (great name for a Jewish restaurant, btw).
“Y’see,” my wife explains, “people often turn to food to satisfy an emotional need. Many of us eat this or that because it ‘makes us feel better.’ But that is dangerous.”
True—those of us who aren’t addicted to drugs, pills, booze… we’re still addicted to SOMETHING!
Chocolate, coffee, etc.
My name is Aaron… and I am addicted to Twizzlers. They’re awesome!
I’ve also eaten a whole Entenmann’s cake in one evening, by myself (no worries, my tears landed safely on my gut). (really, did I need to add “by myself?” Once you start a sentence with “I ate a whole cake…)
(and meth).
And to quote Star Trek’s Deanna Troi, explaining the concept of “dessert” to an alien:
“It's something we eat after the main course. It's usually very sweet, it's usually very bad for you... We eat it purely for pleasure. If you ask me, it's the best part of any meal.”
- (TNG, season 7, ep.2 -“Liaisons,” teleplay by Jeanne Carrigan Fauci & Lisa Rich)
Amen, nerds, Amen.
The mere CONCEPT of dessert—ridiculous!
After a full, satisfying meal, that’s what we need—cake!
“What Passover does,” my wife says, “Passover reminds us that we don’t have to be slaves to food!”
Zing!
Good point—I mean what are we ACTUALLY slaves to in this day and age?
Food has power over us (where’s that dessert cart? “I have no willpower”), food can make us do things we don’t want to do (like go through the dumpster), and can make us feel crappy (like any fast food).
Food is like the ultimate manipulative girlfriend: you spend a night ravaging that pie… next morning you look in the mirror—“What … did you… do?!”
The evidence is strewn about the kitchen.
“I sicken myself.”
Wife:
“So Passover reminds us that we can control what goes into our bodies. (behave)
We don’t NEED to eat bread. We’re not slaves to our stomachs.”
It’s a good point, yet another reason why I like the idea of keeping Kosher or being a vegetarian.
We are not animals.
We do more than eat, sleep and hump (although that sounds like the perfect evening).
We have the ability to think and consider what we consume and why.
Free your mind… and your stomach will follow.
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My wonderful wife made an interesting argument today.
Still recovering from Passover, I shared my thoughts from my blog (“It could always be worse”)—
how abstaining from bread consumption reminds us, “At least we’re not slaves like we used to be!”
My wife corrected me… as she tends to do because she tends to be correct most of the time… (she also tends to read this blog).
“But if that’s the case, we’re simply reliving our slavery for the duration of the holiday. Passover and eating matzah becomes the slavery and not the celebration of our freedom.”
Good point.
They say religion should be a blessing, not a burden.
… Shyeah right.
And your ex meant it when s/he said, “It’s not you, it’s me.”
B.S.
But my wife put it in terms I could understand: Food.
“We are still slaves. Everyone is a slave to something.
And most of us are slaves to food/beverage some of the time.”
My wife is a proud member of Weight Watchers, and a success story (she’s married to me, after all). She lost nearly 30% of her body weight in high school and is smokin’ hot! She is the second hottest Yeshiva student I know (first, naturally, is Yentl).
So she knows a thing or two about food and its tight grip around our gastronomical short and curlies (great name for a Jewish restaurant, btw).
“Y’see,” my wife explains, “people often turn to food to satisfy an emotional need. Many of us eat this or that because it ‘makes us feel better.’ But that is dangerous.”
True—those of us who aren’t addicted to drugs, pills, booze… we’re still addicted to SOMETHING!
Chocolate, coffee, etc.
My name is Aaron… and I am addicted to Twizzlers. They’re awesome!
I’ve also eaten a whole Entenmann’s cake in one evening, by myself (no worries, my tears landed safely on my gut). (really, did I need to add “by myself?” Once you start a sentence with “I ate a whole cake…)
(and meth).
And to quote Star Trek’s Deanna Troi, explaining the concept of “dessert” to an alien:
“It's something we eat after the main course. It's usually very sweet, it's usually very bad for you... We eat it purely for pleasure. If you ask me, it's the best part of any meal.”
- (TNG, season 7, ep.2 -“Liaisons,” teleplay by Jeanne Carrigan Fauci & Lisa Rich)
Amen, nerds, Amen.
The mere CONCEPT of dessert—ridiculous!
After a full, satisfying meal, that’s what we need—cake!
“What Passover does,” my wife says, “Passover reminds us that we don’t have to be slaves to food!”
Zing!
Good point—I mean what are we ACTUALLY slaves to in this day and age?
Food has power over us (where’s that dessert cart? “I have no willpower”), food can make us do things we don’t want to do (like go through the dumpster), and can make us feel crappy (like any fast food).
Food is like the ultimate manipulative girlfriend: you spend a night ravaging that pie… next morning you look in the mirror—“What … did you… do?!”
The evidence is strewn about the kitchen.
“I sicken myself.”
Wife:
“So Passover reminds us that we can control what goes into our bodies. (behave)
We don’t NEED to eat bread. We’re not slaves to our stomachs.”
It’s a good point, yet another reason why I like the idea of keeping Kosher or being a vegetarian.
We are not animals.
We do more than eat, sleep and hump (although that sounds like the perfect evening).
We have the ability to think and consider what we consume and why.
Free your mind… and your stomach will follow.
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Thursday, April 8
It could always be worse
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We're gonna start with bodily functions, end up at mortality. Hang on.
“Then thou shalt say unto thy son, We were Pharaoh’s bondmen in Egypt; and the LORD brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand.”
-- Deuteronomy 6:21
“My poop is brown. I know, most people’s poop is brown. But I mean… mine is REALLY brown.”
-- ?
First of all, I can’t tell WHO said this last quote, because this person would kill me.
But my initial question: how does this anonymous person know the color of MOST people’s poop? Sure, we can speculate and assume… what, does s/he do when no one is watching? Whom does s/he watch defecate? And why isn’t it me?
Thank you, Passover! For making a certain gentleman/lady’s fecal matter darker than Satan’s soul!
Why? Why, for 7/8 days each year, do Jews put themselves in constipatorial jeopardy (Take that, Trebek! Answer in the form of a BM)?
(or… worse John Grisham novel ever)
Why?
And in an inordinate percentage!
Strictly observant Jews do not work, go to school or carry out any business on the first and last day(s) of Passover … however, only about 10% of the American Jewish population observes this rule strictly. (jewfaq.com)
According to an article by Shmuel Rosner found on slate.com from April 17, 2008, 65% of intermarried Jews and 90% of in-married Jews attend a Passover seder.
Damn!
That’s a lot!
Why? What’s your take on it—why do so many Jews go to a Passover seder each year?
Why?
What is it about a seder that encourages Jews to be Jews?
Well, for one thing—it’s dinner. Who refuses dinner?
Secondly, it’s interactive! There’s singing, choreography, it’s a big production… and Jews love Broadway!
Musicals!
Fabulous!
Also, it reminds people that it could always be worse. So what if your life sucks—at least you’re not a slave… like you used to be.
And that’s yet another reason African-Americans and Jewish-Americans should be BFF.
(The first reason… naturally, both our people are exceptional rappers, basketball players and kugel-makers).
AND another reason many Jews marched for Civil Rights in the South in the 1960s… most notably Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel with Dr. Martin Luther King in Alabama.
(http://www.flickr.com/photos/eliyahu5733/87450235/)
My father just informed me of the following hilarious/harrowing ordeal:
The 17 year old Lincoln Continental he inherited from my grandpa is… no more.
Now—like a Mastercard commercial:
It passed inspection that this past Friday: $157
The new owner's card was ordered on Saturday: $36.50
and an hour before he drove it, he had filled the tank: $45 worth of gas
Watching (from a safe distance) as it catches on fire and burns to a crisp in the parking lot of a …(wait for it) cemetery! … priceless.
For everything else… there’s Irony.
Yes, my parents went to a funeral yesterday.
That’s not funny.
But the fact that their 20 year old car, in which they had just invested $240, burst into flames at the funeral… that’s funny.
But to quote my dad, “It just doesn't matter. If it was going to blow up anyway, thank God it did where and when it did. It could have been so much worse; on a road, in a parking garage, near a house or kids. Baruch HaShem [Thank God]”
Amen, Pop.
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We're gonna start with bodily functions, end up at mortality. Hang on.
“Then thou shalt say unto thy son, We were Pharaoh’s bondmen in Egypt; and the LORD brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand.”
-- Deuteronomy 6:21
“My poop is brown. I know, most people’s poop is brown. But I mean… mine is REALLY brown.”
-- ?
First of all, I can’t tell WHO said this last quote, because this person would kill me.
But my initial question: how does this anonymous person know the color of MOST people’s poop? Sure, we can speculate and assume… what, does s/he do when no one is watching? Whom does s/he watch defecate? And why isn’t it me?
Thank you, Passover! For making a certain gentleman/lady’s fecal matter darker than Satan’s soul!
Why? Why, for 7/8 days each year, do Jews put themselves in constipatorial jeopardy (Take that, Trebek! Answer in the form of a BM)?
(or… worse John Grisham novel ever)
Why?
And in an inordinate percentage!
Strictly observant Jews do not work, go to school or carry out any business on the first and last day(s) of Passover … however, only about 10% of the American Jewish population observes this rule strictly. (jewfaq.com)
According to an article by Shmuel Rosner found on slate.com from April 17, 2008, 65% of intermarried Jews and 90% of in-married Jews attend a Passover seder.
Damn!
That’s a lot!
Why? What’s your take on it—why do so many Jews go to a Passover seder each year?
Why?
What is it about a seder that encourages Jews to be Jews?
Well, for one thing—it’s dinner. Who refuses dinner?
Secondly, it’s interactive! There’s singing, choreography, it’s a big production… and Jews love Broadway!
Musicals!
Fabulous!
Also, it reminds people that it could always be worse. So what if your life sucks—at least you’re not a slave… like you used to be.
And that’s yet another reason African-Americans and Jewish-Americans should be BFF.
(The first reason… naturally, both our people are exceptional rappers, basketball players and kugel-makers).
AND another reason many Jews marched for Civil Rights in the South in the 1960s… most notably Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel with Dr. Martin Luther King in Alabama.
(http://www.flickr.com/photos/eliyahu5733/87450235/)
My father just informed me of the following hilarious/harrowing ordeal:
The 17 year old Lincoln Continental he inherited from my grandpa is… no more.
Now—like a Mastercard commercial:
It passed inspection that this past Friday: $157
The new owner's card was ordered on Saturday: $36.50
and an hour before he drove it, he had filled the tank: $45 worth of gas
Watching (from a safe distance) as it catches on fire and burns to a crisp in the parking lot of a …(wait for it) cemetery! … priceless.
For everything else… there’s Irony.
Yes, my parents went to a funeral yesterday.
That’s not funny.
But the fact that their 20 year old car, in which they had just invested $240, burst into flames at the funeral… that’s funny.
But to quote my dad, “It just doesn't matter. If it was going to blow up anyway, thank God it did where and when it did. It could have been so much worse; on a road, in a parking garage, near a house or kids. Baruch HaShem [Thank God]”
Amen, Pop.
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Wednesday, April 7
Two Twins and a Lie
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“And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering. But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth…;” (Genesis 4:4-5).
“And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?”
(Genesis 4:9)
Okay, time for some brutal honesty:
When I was 5 years old I … repeated kindergarten.
But I was not alone—my twin brother also repeated kindergarten.
(sigh)
Oh, sweet Lord forgive me!
That paste was so tasty I had to eat it for another year!
(ahem)
Naturally, after that I developed soul-crushing self-doubts about my intelligence, which is toetully ridikooluss.
(Me likey skissors)
No no. Actually, these doubts were all in my head and completely unfounded.
I was always among the top 30 in my class (And the lady in the trailer on cinder blocks said I read super good, long time).
All that being said— when I turned 13, something changed.
I had my Bar-Mitzvah ceremony, a Jewish rite of passage. So that Friday, the day before my big BM (what?), my father took me aside and quietly said, “Aaron, you’re old enough now to know the truth. When you and your brother finished your first year of kindergarten, the teachers told us that one of you could possibly move on to 1st grade, but the other kid definitely needed to repeat kindergarten… Aaron, YOU were the kid who could’ve moved on to 1st grade.”
I couldn’t believe it.
My father continued, “But we felt it would’ve damaged the relationship between you and your brother, being identical twins and all. And we were told it was better for you to stay behind at the age of 5, rather than struggle to catch up for the rest of elementary school.”
I was shocked.
“But don’t tell your brother, it’ll just make him upset. You can be the bigger man, can’t you, Aaron?”
I assured my father that I could be the bigger man.
And I was.
… for a few hours.
Then my brother and I started arguing over which songs the DJ would play at our Bar Mitzvah party/record hop/ice cream buffet, which would occur the next evening.
My Brother: “That song from ‘Grease’ sucks!”
Me: “Y’know what—YOU suck!”
Brother: “Oh, brilliant comeback.”
Me: “Ha! What do YOU know about brilliant—YOU were the reason we repeated kindergarten!”
My brother looked confused. I felt bad, but I also really wanted the DJ to play ‘Summer Lovin’”—so I continued.
“Yeah, Dad told me that I could’ve gone to 1st grade, but you HAD to be held back, so they held BOTH of us back.”
Then there was a pause, my brother’s eyes got wide and suddenly he shouted, “Dad told ME that YOU had to be held back and that I was the one who could’ve gone to 1st grade!”
What????
Son of a bee sting!
The old man had done it again.
To this day we don’t know which one of us HAD to be held back for that second year of kindergarten… maybe both… maybe neither.
But we do know one thing—
our father
… is a liar.
And blood is thicker than paste.
“For I say,… to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think. …”
-- Romans 12:3
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“And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering. But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth…;” (Genesis 4:4-5).
“And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?”
(Genesis 4:9)
Okay, time for some brutal honesty:
When I was 5 years old I … repeated kindergarten.
But I was not alone—my twin brother also repeated kindergarten.
(sigh)
Oh, sweet Lord forgive me!
That paste was so tasty I had to eat it for another year!
(ahem)
Naturally, after that I developed soul-crushing self-doubts about my intelligence, which is toetully ridikooluss.
(Me likey skissors)
No no. Actually, these doubts were all in my head and completely unfounded.
I was always among the top 30 in my class (And the lady in the trailer on cinder blocks said I read super good, long time).
All that being said— when I turned 13, something changed.
I had my Bar-Mitzvah ceremony, a Jewish rite of passage. So that Friday, the day before my big BM (what?), my father took me aside and quietly said, “Aaron, you’re old enough now to know the truth. When you and your brother finished your first year of kindergarten, the teachers told us that one of you could possibly move on to 1st grade, but the other kid definitely needed to repeat kindergarten… Aaron, YOU were the kid who could’ve moved on to 1st grade.”
I couldn’t believe it.
My father continued, “But we felt it would’ve damaged the relationship between you and your brother, being identical twins and all. And we were told it was better for you to stay behind at the age of 5, rather than struggle to catch up for the rest of elementary school.”
I was shocked.
“But don’t tell your brother, it’ll just make him upset. You can be the bigger man, can’t you, Aaron?”
I assured my father that I could be the bigger man.
And I was.
… for a few hours.
Then my brother and I started arguing over which songs the DJ would play at our Bar Mitzvah party/record hop/ice cream buffet, which would occur the next evening.
My Brother: “That song from ‘Grease’ sucks!”
Me: “Y’know what—YOU suck!”
Brother: “Oh, brilliant comeback.”
Me: “Ha! What do YOU know about brilliant—YOU were the reason we repeated kindergarten!”
My brother looked confused. I felt bad, but I also really wanted the DJ to play ‘Summer Lovin’”—so I continued.
“Yeah, Dad told me that I could’ve gone to 1st grade, but you HAD to be held back, so they held BOTH of us back.”
Then there was a pause, my brother’s eyes got wide and suddenly he shouted, “Dad told ME that YOU had to be held back and that I was the one who could’ve gone to 1st grade!”
What????
Son of a bee sting!
The old man had done it again.
To this day we don’t know which one of us HAD to be held back for that second year of kindergarten… maybe both… maybe neither.
But we do know one thing—
our father
… is a liar.
And blood is thicker than paste.
“For I say,… to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think. …”
-- Romans 12:3
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Sunday, April 4
Cave of wonders
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"And Moses lifted up his hand, and with his rod he smote the rock twice: and the water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their beasts also."
--Numbers 20:10
I have been away from my computer for a few days.
Why?
I was in Petra, Jordan.
What a ride.
What's there to see in Petra?
Well, if you've seen the end of "Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade", you know.
There is a monastery (technically dubbed "Treasury") carved into the side of a mountain.
The exterior is used in Indy 3.
It's where Indy found the holy grail!
("We named the DOG 'Indiana'"
"You were named after the dog?! Ha ha ha!")
But apparently it's more than just a set piece. It's real!
And that's only a small part of what they have in Petra.
There are also camels! and donkeys! and loud hairy men trying to sell crappy jewelery and small, annoying children trying to sell postcards.
A magical place.
My wife bought a blue topaz necklace from one fellow. It was only 1 dinar (or $1.50)! What a deal!
Last night she was wearing it as we walked through the streets of Jerusalem. After 15 minutes I noticed something odd.
"Um, honey," I said. "You're bosoms are blue."
Sure enough, he perspiration had caused the blue coloring from the super cheap necklace to rub off onto her chest, giving her a medical condition I dubbed "Avatartits." She thought it looked like Papa Smurf had done something disgusting on her.
My wife! So traveler tip: don't buy jewelery for less than 2 bucks in Petra.
Anyway, we explored the caves of Jordan and learned stuff, too.
And the sandstone rocks in Petra contain zinc oxide, so the ancient Nabataeans (who lived there) would use it as rouge, eye shadow, as well as antibiotic ointment-- all good for the skin.
Cool!
Experts also say Petra was inhabited as far back as 1500 BCE!
Why?
Well, according to Wikipedia (my exhaustive dedication to research is unparalleled), "the Nabataeans controlled flash floods by the use of dams, cisterns and water conduits. These innovations stored water for prolonged periods of drought, and enabled the city to prosper from its sale."
The flash floods came from Wadi Musa, which translated to mean "The Valley of Moses."
Y'see, tradition says that Petra was the site for Moses' impatient rock-hitting, which ticked off God, who then forbade Moses from entering the Promised Land.
"...therefore ye shall not bring this congregation into the land which I have given them"
-- Numbers 20:12
Bummer.
Physical violence isn't the answer.
Whether you're throwing chairs at women praying by the Western Wall, or punching your brother in the nose because you feel guilty about the genocide in Rwanda, or if you're Moses and God tells you "speak ye unto the rock before their eyes; and it shall give forth his water"
(Numbers 20:8).
Use your words!
Even if those words are, "Hey, rock! Gimme some water!"
It's an important lesson-- the most advanced creation by humans is language. And when you stop using language... you stop... y'know... doin' stuff... that is good... to do.
Yup.
"Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent."
-- Isaac Asimov, from his novel "Federation"
.
"And Moses lifted up his hand, and with his rod he smote the rock twice: and the water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their beasts also."
--Numbers 20:10
I have been away from my computer for a few days.
Why?
I was in Petra, Jordan.
What a ride.
What's there to see in Petra?
Well, if you've seen the end of "Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade", you know.
There is a monastery (technically dubbed "Treasury") carved into the side of a mountain.
The exterior is used in Indy 3.
It's where Indy found the holy grail!
("We named the DOG 'Indiana'"
"You were named after the dog?! Ha ha ha!")
But apparently it's more than just a set piece. It's real!
And that's only a small part of what they have in Petra.
There are also camels! and donkeys! and loud hairy men trying to sell crappy jewelery and small, annoying children trying to sell postcards.
A magical place.
My wife bought a blue topaz necklace from one fellow. It was only 1 dinar (or $1.50)! What a deal!
Last night she was wearing it as we walked through the streets of Jerusalem. After 15 minutes I noticed something odd.
"Um, honey," I said. "You're bosoms are blue."
Sure enough, he perspiration had caused the blue coloring from the super cheap necklace to rub off onto her chest, giving her a medical condition I dubbed "Avatartits." She thought it looked like Papa Smurf had done something disgusting on her.
My wife! So traveler tip: don't buy jewelery for less than 2 bucks in Petra.
Anyway, we explored the caves of Jordan and learned stuff, too.
And the sandstone rocks in Petra contain zinc oxide, so the ancient Nabataeans (who lived there) would use it as rouge, eye shadow, as well as antibiotic ointment-- all good for the skin.
Cool!
Experts also say Petra was inhabited as far back as 1500 BCE!
Why?
Well, according to Wikipedia (my exhaustive dedication to research is unparalleled), "the Nabataeans controlled flash floods by the use of dams, cisterns and water conduits. These innovations stored water for prolonged periods of drought, and enabled the city to prosper from its sale."
The flash floods came from Wadi Musa, which translated to mean "The Valley of Moses."
Y'see, tradition says that Petra was the site for Moses' impatient rock-hitting, which ticked off God, who then forbade Moses from entering the Promised Land.
"...therefore ye shall not bring this congregation into the land which I have given them"
-- Numbers 20:12
Bummer.
Physical violence isn't the answer.
Whether you're throwing chairs at women praying by the Western Wall, or punching your brother in the nose because you feel guilty about the genocide in Rwanda, or if you're Moses and God tells you "speak ye unto the rock before their eyes; and it shall give forth his water"
(Numbers 20:8).
Use your words!
Even if those words are, "Hey, rock! Gimme some water!"
It's an important lesson-- the most advanced creation by humans is language. And when you stop using language... you stop... y'know... doin' stuff... that is good... to do.
Yup.
"Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent."
-- Isaac Asimov, from his novel "Federation"
.
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